dal niente

Month: August, 2016

The cavalry is on its way

On Friday, [CM]’s parents are arriving from Asia. On Saturday, my parents are arriving from North America. On Sunday, my sister is arriving.


That’s good because there’s a shit ton of things to do before the wedding!




I’m ultra busy this week. I have to grade a gazillion papers, plus I’m teaching twice as many classes for this week and next week in exchange for someone replacing me whyile I’m on my honeymoon. It’s busy.

I don’t really remember many times in my life when I’ve had free time. Nobody would say that this was one of those times though.




Working at the [Firm] has gotten better. As I mentioned, [Bucky] left to work for another company, so I finally got that raise I always wanted, and I’m now working on more legal stuff (as opposed to IT). It’s a good change of pace because I actually feel like a lawyer at work now, and it gives me a bit more confidence in my career path generally.


As part of the new home we purchased a few months ago, we have a huge 6m x 6m garage, which is slowly but surely being converted into what CM calls my “man cave”. It’s sorta like a batcave, except that I am not Batman.

I’ve been putting shelving along the walls so that I can store more and more things vertically. It also has a hanging punching bag on a stand, as well as a home gym set which I am in the process of assembling. In my free time. Wherever that is.


I’ve been practicing my first dance with CM for the wedding. I am totally not cut out for this, but I can still learn it to the best of my ability.

It’s interesting that in judo, the whole purpose of footwork is to put your partner off balance and make them fall over. I’m told that dancing is a bit different.

Short feed

I’m going to try experimenting with shorter posts. I keep putting off posting because I am always reasoning that I don’t have enough time to really write properly, but that’s becoming an excuse that is making me go months without a peep. Maybe I need to change strategies ?

Old Habits

So much news since I last wrote.


[CM] and I bought a house. It’s nice. The cats love it.

It is a bit difficult at times because, as a habit, we usually try and locate each of our cats before leaving home. With a whole townhouse though, there are a hundred places they could be hiding, so sometimes that takes a fair amount of time.

First world problems.


The Sydney wedding is coming up– one month from today actually. We have family coming in from all over the place, and [Zanshin] is even flying in from Montreal.

The Montreal wedding is going to be a few days later. Yes, we are flying to Montreal for a second wedding, just days after our Sydney wedding.

It’s going to be a crazy and very tiring process, but we do want to be able to reach the people who can’t make it to Sydney.


CM has been filling out applications for Basic Physicians Training, which is what you need to do progress to the next stage of being a medical doctor in Australia. She’s stressed out about the whole process– she has 3 interviews, but they’re not her 1st or 2nd choice hospitals. It’s a bit tough because, frankly, there’s only so much I can do in these situations.


[Bucky] resigned from her solicitor’s role at the firm about a month ago, and it’s really becoming apparent now that the adult world involves a lot of work. If you want numbers, I guess you could say I’m doing about double the legal work I used to do before she quit.

It hasn’t been easy. I’ve been regularly working from 8AM until about 7PM, and this has been happening for about a week and a half now. Throughout the day, this isn’t easy work either– it’s ground level documents drafting that takes a hella lot of processing power. By the time I am done work, I’m absolutely exhausted.

Cracks are starting to show. I am, frankly, overworked, and I’m starting to make mistakes and the quality of my work is dropping. Not much I can do about that though except weather the storm.


My leg is better now, but I’m not in condition to be training. I haven’t done judo in about 3 months now.


I’m teaching criminal justice again at a university law school– one day per week that I’m not at the law firm, I teach 2nd semester law students. It’s probably the most fun I have in a week, because working with the next generation just puts me a bit more at ease. The hours and the pay are good as well.