I don’t believe in karma– I simply believe in probability and statistics.
Yesterday, [CM] and I were recruiting Australian-resident friends to sign statutory declarations that they know us to be an in a genuine de-facto relationship as partners. We have about 5-6 friends who are going to go through the process for us, which is onerous to say the least– they need to fill out about two pages of forms and talk about some pretty personal things. They have to get their forms witnessed by certain officials, and additionally, they need to include a certified copy of citizenship proof. Just to basically say “CM and [Jinryu] are a genuine couple! I’ve seen evidence! Blah blah!”
This morning, people at [The Institute] I work with expedited the processing of my Graduate Diploma of Legal Practice, which was the final piece of paper that I need before applying to admission as a solicitor of New South Wales. They don’t have to do it– I just asked nicely about a month ago and they said not to worry about it.
Just under an hour ago, I was at the office of the Legal Profession Admission Board, who reviewed my application for admission and are going to send me a separate, personal notice when specific papers I need for my graduate visa application have arrived. Again, I just asked nicely.
Hard work is very important, but the concept of “entitlement” is a social construct that we, of first world countries, need to forget about. Entitlement is toxic– it leads to envy, and makes it easy for us to talk and shake fists rather than to actually do anything about what we need. There is a natural disconnect between “hard work” and “results” because of the socialised nature of the things we want– it’s impossible for us to get everything we want because there just isn’t always enough of “it”. The result? Either shut up, and stay in the game, or play something else.
Hard work only increases your chances of getting what you want– at the end of the day, the reason why you have to work hard at things is to build relationships and a connection with the world around you. We can’t do it alone. We are small and insignificant, being individually single digit numerators out of any number of arbitrary denominators.
My point is that we get nowhere if the world around us does not show kindness, generosity, or selflessness. We have a statistical advantage only if we persist, and keep rolling, and keep rolling, and increase our availability for good things to happen to us. But make no mistake: we are at the mercy of others, and the only way to stay connected with others is to stick out your neck and be good to people around you whenever you can.
I have said thank you to many people today.