The Dead Battery! You’re going to be late to work so you rush out to your car, place the
key in the ignition and turn it on. You hear nothing but a grind; the battery is dead.
- DENIAL — What’s the first thing you do? You try to start it again!
And again. You may check to make sure the radio, heater, lights, etc. are off and then…,
- ANGER — “%$@^##& car!”, “I should have junked you
years ago.” Did you slam your hand on the steering wheel? I have. “I should just
leave you out in the rain and let you rust.”
- BARGAINING — (realizing that you’re going to be late for work)…,
“Oh please car, if you will just start one more time I promise I’ll buy you a brand
new battery, get a tune up, new tires, belts and hoses, and keep you in perfect working
- DEPRESSION — “Oh God, what am I going to do. I’m going to be
late for work. I give up. My job is at risk and I don’t really care any more. What’s the
- ACCEPTANCE — “Ok. It’s dead. Guess I had better call the Auto
Club or find another way to work. Time to get on with my day; I’ll deal with this
See, the thing about the way min brain works. I do sorta rush
through the denial part. Then I skip over the anger part almost
entirely. I get to the bargaining part, which is where I spend
most of my time, because i’m not sure if it’s a real problem yet and I
don’t know the variables, I just know that I need something to work and
so I’ll throw offers at it.. If bribes don’t work, then usually I
skip over the depression part and go straight to acceptance. You
can’t fix or evolve your situation from the problem if you can’t accept
that the problem is there.
Note that this is only when “shit happens that I can’t do nothing about
directly”. When life gives you shit, really, sometimes you just
gotta be happy with shit-ade. There are some situations that you
cannot fix– but you have to work around these road blocks.
Contra style, you’ve got to gun and run.
What do you want to call it ? Triage? There are other
things that need your attention in life. This is what makes some
people better leaders than others, because some people get stuck at
Success is not a measure of accomplishment– it is a measurement of
momentum, of drive. It’s the act in itself of constaltly moving,
not the desintation, that is important.